Tuesday, July 16, 2013

To the one I never should have loved....

J.K-

I haven’t written you in years. I swore that I’d done enough of it the last time. But my heart knows I have to do this- the final letter, the final farewell. I need to say some things to you that are eating at me. I need to clear the debris of our love affair from my heart and make way for new love to enter. I need to do this for me.

You’re an ass. You know this. I know this. Hell, everyone who has ever met you knows this. You’re cocky and self-assured. It’s what drew me to you. I needed that in my life and you had it in spades. You're still an ass and I don't need that anymore.

We were doomed from the start. But I wanted you and had to have you- damn the consequences and whoever else got hurt in the process. Karma bitch slapped me later but you’ve always come out on top. I’ve hated you for that for a long time. It’s time to let go of the hate.

We met through Tony. You were his friend first, and last. I came in fifth or sixth on your list. You were first on mine- always. When he died I thought I lost you then. But you came back to me later….

That last time we tried to be together you broke my heart so deeply that I lept feet first in to a bad relationship just to numb the pain. When you came to me I was taken aback, but glad to finally have you. We’d tried before and couldn’t get it right. This time you asked me if I remembered a letter I wrote to you where I told you that you were the right guy but wrong time. That night you told me “right guy, right time” and my heart was so full and happy. I believed you, in you and in us.

A handful of weeks into our new chapter, you disappeared. That’s when she must have told you she was pregnant. You knew I couldn’t give you this one thing she could. I didn’t know it then- because you lied your way out of my life again- HE, that beautiful little boy, was the reason she won. I know now, hell it doesn’t take a genius to do the math. You should have told me. Instead I beat myself up for not being skinny enough, for not being this or that enough for you. I let your lies tear my heart apart and beat myself up so badly that I endangered my own life to kill the pain you left.

I wouldn’t/ can’t fault you for wanting what I couldn’t give you. I know how much having a namesake meant to you. I will never blame that little boy for being. I blame you for not being man enough to tell me. I blame you for not being the man I deserved. I blame you for letting me down and for letting Tony down- you’ll have to face him sooner than me. You know how much he loved you, how much he loved me. You know how much he hated to have someone hurt me and someone he loved so much to hurt me…. I’m just glad he didn’t see it in person because that would have killed him.

I deleted you from my phone a while back. I had to. I have to let go of the story of us. I have to let go of the what-if’s. I did all I could to show you how much you were loved. I just wish I’d never fallen for you because you never deserved the love I gave you. You didn’t ever deserve my heart. You will never hear from me. I won’t go down that road ever again.

I used to envy her- she had you. But I know that in the long run I’m the one who came out on top- I never lied to you!

Goodbye,

The one who used to love you

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